why is it always a male character going mad avenging his dead wife and never a female character cradling her dying pure of heart husband in her arms then dragging the whole world down with her

First of all, this is a very clever use of this gif. Secondly, fuck you.

Don’t feel like posting a link to an article, cuz I don’t wanna pick a specific source, but Billie Eilish is talking about how bad porn is, and how she wishes she never watched porn, etc. I’ve seen several articles about it today, it seems to be everywhere.

“As a woman, I think porn is a disgrace”

The issues she talks about are mostly how it’s negatively affected herself, and beauty standards, rather than the rape/abuse industry, which is a little disappointing. But I still think it’a a great thing to bring up. It’s important to call attention to things that are wrong when we see them. I don’t care for her much personally, but I know that sooooo many teenagers (and younger!) look up to her. They want to be like her. I hope they listen, and maybe start to change their minds. She’s got millions of impressionable fans, and she can definitely make a positive impact with her admission. This could potentially be a very positive thing to come from Stan culture, for sure. I hope it does.

Teens tend to care too much about being “cool”, and porn is unfortunately considered cool. Almost supremely cool. But I think more kids will listen to someone who they personally think is cool. If a regular teenage girl says she doesn’t like porn, people will call her boring, or a prude, or worse. But now that Billie is saying stuff like “I'm so angry that porn is so loved, and I'm so angry at myself for thinking that it was okay.”, it will be less of an unpopular opinion to have. Or at least less taboo to bring up, because they look up to someone who is anti-porn. They have a role model. It’s sad that it would take a statement from their idol to realize that porn is bad, but if that’s what it takes, I’m glad it’s happening.

It’s wonderful to see more women speaking out about this. I hope this starts a domino effect, so even more women feel comfortable airing their grievances with the entire porn industry. It’s all too common to be hit with a barrage of “Whorephobe!” and “You hate sex workers!” and “Prude!!!”, and all kinds of insults, because that’s the popular thing to say. But just like with JKR, people should listen and realize “Hey, I think she’s right. I agree with her! This is a bad thing!”

It’s also scary, because she said she said she started watching porn when she was ELEVEN. That’s a sad indication of how the younger generation is gonna be. Kids younger than her have had nearly unlimited internet access for their entire lives. She probably has, too. I know that parents aren’t keeping tabs on everything their kids look at online. But it’s good that she’s coming to this realization now, because she’s still very young, and also has a very young following. Plus, some people just never get there. They deny the harm that porn causes until they’re blue in the face, and delude themselves into thinking that it’s a healthy/normal part of a person’s sex life.

I know how she feels. I used to watch porn, too. I thought it was just expected. It was normal. I’m also angry at myself for thinking it was okay. But that’s all I was exposed to. “Everyone does it…” Now, it’s like “How could I ever do that? Why did I enjoy it? Why was that a thing I did? Why did everyone act like it was normal?” I acted like it was normal, because everyone else did. I feel like that’s a very common experience for women, but I’m not positive. I’m still ashamed of my own porn use from before I knew better.

If you’re struggling with a porn addiction, please try to quit, and keep trying until you don’t have any desire anymore. It will happen if you know the reality. Don’t give up. I promise, it’s so much better without porn. Everything is. It’s hard at first, but then it’s a major shift. It gets easier to have an orgasm, you have a better ability to create healthy fantasies (or healthy intimacy, if you’re not single) and overall respect yourself more when you quit. You respect other women more, too. Mentally, I feel infinitely better than I did when I was a porn viewer.

Just knowing what really happens in those videos should be enough reason to quit, but there are also actual legitimate personal benefits to not viewing porn, as well, which are what Billie referred to. Sometimes people relapse, so reminding them of the personal benefits of quitting porn can be helpful. But we shouldn’t ignore the fact that the biggest problem is what’s happening on “set”, not what’s happening when we fuck up our own libido/mental state by watching it.

It’s better for everyone to not watch it. It’s something I’m ashamed of doing in the past, but I try not to punish myself too much, because it’s the status quo. That does not make it okay, or mean we shouldn’t challenge it. It’s the same old saying, if your friend jumped off a bridge, would you do it too? Just to be cool? To fit in? No. So viewing porn is what everyone supposedly does, but that doesn’t mean it’s the right thing to do, or a good thing to do. We just need more people speaking out and saying that watching porn is bad, and it won’t be so controversial to say anymore. Then, maybe people will actually take action. But that’s only a far-off hope.

Thanks for standing up, Billie. In this day and age, where anyone who criticizes anything remotely related to sex is immediately vilified, I think it took guts to say that. It’s an incredibly unpopular opinion from an incredibly popular young woman. This could potentially change things. I can’t wait to see if more of her contemporaries speak up to agree with her. I hope they’re also brave.

Feigning ignorance whenever transphobia or terfs are brought up is both hilarious and infuriating. It’s so funny to watch liberals and leftists bend over backwards to explain to you how completely innocuous things are transphobic.

I went out for drinks with some friends last night, and part way into the evening, the topic of conversation turned to the terf supreme, Joanne Rowling.

It was at this point that I, already several sheets to the wind, feigned ignorance of terfery. I said I didn’t really understand it, especially in connection to JK Rowling. My well-intentioned friends started gently explaining to me she had said all kinds of harmful things about trans people. 

“Did she?” I asked. “Because I read that essay that everyone was saying was transphobic, and I thought that she was pretty sympathetic to trans people, so…”

It wasn’t that straightforward, they told me. Sure, she doesn’t say that she hates trans people, and they hadn’t read the essay so they couldn’t comment on that, but she uses a lot of turns of phrase that terfs understand to be dogwhistles.

“What are those?” I asked.

It’s a coded message, they told me. So that it doesn’t seem transphobic, but it is.

“Isn’t that very complicated?” said I. “Maybe she just means what she says.”

That can’t be true, they said.

I didn’t push it any further, because I was drunk and aware that if I said what I actually thought, I would also be branded a terf, but the whole thing just infuriates me.

These otherwise intelligent liberals are so in thrall to the trans movement that they’re completely comfortable labelling people like JK Rowling as transphobic without even having read her so-called hate filled essay. They’re so willing to repeat lines that they have been spoon-fed and buy into what can only be called a conspiracy theory of terf dogwhistles. It’s honestly insane.

Why does everyone think that women who are critical of gender and some trans policies are speaking in dogwhistles? Why can’t what they say be what they genuinely think? Why don’t people believe that women can just say what they mean? And why are people so ready to believe that women are hiding what they really think? 

Isn’t this the exact same thing that men have said about us for generations? That women never say what they actually mean. That when they say no, they really want it. That a woman saying she’s unhappy is just lying. That women who set boundaries secretly crave those boundaries being forcibly broken down. 

How is any of this different from the misogyny that we’ve spent hundreds of years fighting against?

i would think this post was well thought out if Rowling wasn’t Very Openly and Obviously Transphobic. she doesn’t hide it. it’s not coded. anyone who says otherwise hasn’t been paying attention. you can’t sell “trans women are men” buttons and claim to be a kind woman getting misinterpreted. that isn’t code. that’s profiting off of your own bigotry. :/

What, specifically, has J.K. Rowling said that is “Very Openly and Obviously Transphobic”? I’m genuinely asking. If it’s not hidden, and not coded, can you give me an actual quote of hers that is transphobic?

absolutely! my quarrel isn’t with her assertion that sex based oppression is real, but rather her promotion of the website Wild Womyn Workshop, which i believe she had linked in her twitter for an extended period of time.

it advertises pins saying, “Transwomen are men,” “Transmen are my sisters,” “Transition = conversion therapy,” “Fuck your pronouns,” and “Woman is Not a Costume.” They also have mugs brandishing the phrase, “Notorious Transphobe.”

this shop is connected to the “get the L out” ideology, but i wouldn’t go so far as to say Rowling has anything to do with that. she just got a shirt and promoted a shop selling hate speech.

Hey, I really appreciate your reply, and I would very much like to understand your perspective on this, so I have some questions that I would genuinely like answers to.

You said that J.K. Rowling linked to the Wild Womyn Workshop website and was promoting their t-shirt. What was wrong with the t-shirt that she was promoting? Was it transphobic?

You also implied that there is something wrong, or transphobic about this shop being connected to the “get the L out” ideology/movement. Why? What’s wrong with that? Shouldn’t lesbians be allowed a movement of their own if they wish?

And I understand why those pins might be contentious, but do you believe that they actually constitute hate speech? Is there anything abusive or threatening in them? People might not like them, and may, wrongly or rightly, disagree with them, but does saying things like “woman is not a costume” actually perpetuate any prejudice?

I do think the pins contain hate speech. I think these women are entitled to any opinion they want, obviously, but i can’t imagine a world in which pins like this aren’t considered hateful.

My issue with them isn’t that i hate women voicing opinions i disagree with but rather the intention behind them. these pins are designed with the purpose of upsetting / offending / even hurting trans people. i think purposefully trying to induce dysphoria or misgendering someone on purpose is hate speech. maybe you disagree and that’s fine! but i would also note that maybe you aren’t the best person to ask.

now, i have no issue with her shirt. it’s cute! i take issue with the fact that she supported this shop with her money and then went on to direct a ton of traffic to them.

as a lesbian, i think it’s fine for lesbians to want their own space, but “get the L out” seems to be oriented almost completely on excluding trans women, which i’m not comfortable with supporting.

Perhaps you could explain to me exactly why you think these pins are offensive, or how they would upset/ offend/ or even hurt trans people.

Additionally, while you feel uncomfortable excluding transwomen from lesbian spaces, and therefore I presume other women’s only spaces, do you think that there is necessarily anything wrong with excluding certain groups from certain movements/spaces?

no, not necessarily and i don’t get mad when women want spaces ONLY for cis women. i don’t think there’s a point to harassing everyone who excludes trans people, because that’s not going to change anyones mind, y’know?

and at the end of the day, the pins are rude. they’re mean and invalidating. i would feel uncomfortable seeing pins saying lesbianism is a disease or women are only useful for sex etc.

it doesn’t have to be earth-shattering or death threats to be wrong. i just don’t think it’s right to be intentionally mean or hateful and advertise that.

I understand your point, and I don’t disagree with the idea that you shouldn’t be intentionally mean or hateful, but I don’t think you can make the argument that someone like J.K. Rowling is bigoted for simply linking to a shop that happens to sell pins that some people find rude.

I also think the comparison between statements like “transactivism is misogyny” and “lesbianism is a disease” are misleading. The former is a statement argued by women who have seen how transactivism reinforces sexist and misogynistic ideas about gender, while the other is just insulting lesbians.

I get that some people might dislike these pins, but they’re not advocating for any kind of harm, nor do they incite hatred. To declare them hate speech is a massive exaggeration, and therefore to declare someone like Rowling a bigot for promoting this shop is also a massive exaggeration.

My original post was about the fact that people are entirely too willing to declare her, and thereby other women, bigots and hateful for things that they have allegedly said, but when asked to provide proof cannot do so. When they are shown evidence of what such women actually said, people then claim that it’s coded. You yourself said that she had been openly transphobic, but failed to provide any proof of her actually saying those kinds of things. You might not like the shop that she linked to in her twitter, but even you can’t say that those things are actually hate speech; they’re just rude to some people.

You’ve been very kind and polite in your responses, but ultimately, I don’t think you have managed to prove your point in any way.

it’s clear neither of us are going to agree because at the end of the day, it’s a matter of opinion. however, i encourage you to listen to the people these pins are talking about on whether or not they’re hate speech.

and my point on “lesbianism is a disease” is that this could come from a straight evangelical who has “seen how homosexuality has corrupted today’s youth and drawn them away from god.” to give another example from my personal experience, it feels a lot like when Christians tell me “my people” killed Jesus. i do understand why you interpret them differently. however, you are right that they don’t incite violence. they’re like the “i’m not politically correct hehe” t-shirts. they seem to exist partially to “trigger the libs/TRAs.”

thank you for reminding me to look back on J.K. Rowling’s actual statements, because it’s so easy to forget she’s not a vitriolic monster when you only ever hear the fact that she holds transphobic ideas and not the actual words she said.

“she’s not a vitriolic monster”

if only that had lasted

What has she said that you find vitriolic?

look at her twitter

the propaganda, the targeting activists, the victim complex (you were not “doxxed” your address is public)

the intent is more than clear, her intent is to spread vile hate and to platform it

so what did she say? are there any actual quotes of hers that you can provide to support your point?

of course, its not propagandist bigotry and senseless insults if you agree with her

supporting maya forstater is really what does it for me, maya is a scumbag of a human being and supporting her makes you as bad as her

i really fail to see how any of that is vitriolic. she is stating things in a very calm, composed manner. none of it is propaganda, none of it targets anyone (let alone any activists), and there’s literally no way any of this can be considered even remotely close to an insult.

if supporting maya forstater makes you a bigot, then the UK Employment Appeal Tribunal, presided over by one of the highest courts in the country, is a bigot. the law doesn’t care about your feelings, and frankly it seems that you’re trying to be upset. none of this is offensive

if you think its not insulting because it was said in a collected manner, then its not insulting

also you’re really misunderstanding the forstater case, its not the win against the evil wokes you think it is, you still can’t harass trans people without consequences

please explain to me exactly what is so insulting about what j.k. rowling has said. please.

also, the maya forstater case is a win not because it protects gender critical beliefs under the law. this means that you can’t be fired, as maya forstater was, for recognising that males are not women. employment rights for women are the victory, now just as they were for the original suffragettes

she was not fired, they didn’t renew her contract, that’s not the same stop misrepresenting the case, congratulations you now have the “right” to not get fired for being an asshole, cool

she’s stating “facts” (biological essentialism) and then claiming she’s the victim for being called the reactionary bigot that she is (she’s also racist and antisemetic, but you’ll defend her as long as she’s kicking trans people)

fyi, i have a feeling the suffragettes would not like the notion of “sex based rights”, seeing as that’s what voting was for men in their time, they fought for equality and “gender critical” is an absolute slap in the face to what those women stood for

you are correct, maya forstater was not fired, she simply didn’t have her contract renewed. however, the ruling that found in her favour, stating that the reason for her non-renewal was not justified and sets the precedent that means that one cannot be fired for holding gender critical beliefs. 

stating that males cannot be women is not biological essentialism. biological essentialism is the belief that an individual’s personality or some specific quality (such as intelligence, creativity, femininity, or aggression) is an innate and natural essence. saying that women are feminine is biological essentialism. saying that males are not women is just biological reality. additionally, you’ve yet to provide any proof for what jkr has said that is offensive. where has she been racist or anti-semetic? can you provide proof for that? or are you just talking out of your arse like you have been with everything else so far?

and fyi, your deliberate misunderstanding of the suffrage movement is not only stupid, but also insulting. men had sex based rights, including the right to vote. women fought against the laws that said that they couldn’t vote because of their sex. they were in fact fighting for sex based rights, and the only feminist movement in the 21st century that is even remotely akin to the original suffrage movement is the radical feminist movement, which is gender critical.

stop playing at understanding feminism or the suffrage movement. it’s clear that you’ll never understand it

look up jkr’s racism or antisemitism, i don’t feel like explaining it and its talked about plentifully (but not within your circles)

your viewpoint on the world is…..grim, your belief in “males” and “females” over “people” is profoundly troubling, you probably don’t even think gender dysphoria is real (which would be an antiscientific opinion to have)

“sex based rights” are not a real concept, equality is ignoring shit like that and granting the same rights to everyone

you will never see all people as equal, or be able to fight for equality, with a viewpoint like that, i’m just glad you gender criticals don’t have much political power outside of britain, and i hope you lose your hold on radical feminism soon

you are a deeply unhappy woman, and i refuse to yield to your views, good day to you, do yourself and me a favor and just block me or something

so you can’t come up with any racist or anti-semetic or transphobic quotes from jkr then? interesting. it’s almost like that’s the point that i’ve making all along.

i hope you learn to accept reality as it is, you’ll be much happier. meanwhile, i, somewhere who can both perceive and understand reality, will continue to advocate for the rights of women, who are both female and people. the terms are not mutually exclusive as you seem to believe.

“JKR’S REAL BAD GUYS”

“Can you prove that?”

“UHHHH NO BUT SHE IS”

“Is there any evidence?”

“YOU’RE A LOSER JUST BLOCK ME OR SOMETHING”

It’s almost like she hasn’t said anything that normal people would get offended over.  Huh.

“sex based rights” are not a real concept

They…very, very much are. “On the basis of sex” is an actual thing that has existed. It’s being dismantled by trans activists, but “sex-based protections” are very much a thing.

my personal highlights:

and the astounding

i do wonder if this person was a troll, idk how you could type these things and not know how stupid they are

There’s no way this person is that stupid… Either way, everything they say is a farce.

are you okay with teachers watching student/teacher p0rn? are you okay with doctors watching p0rn of medical personnel assaulting unconscious patients? are you okay with dads watching stepdaughter p0rn? are you okay with a sister watching sibling incest p0rn? are you okay with men watching lesbian p0rn? are you okay with white people watching slavery roleplay p0rn? are you okay with transphobes watching "sissy" p0rn? are you okay with landlords watching "tenant fucks to pay rent" p0rn?

this is the reality of p0rnography. people you work with, people you know, people in positions of social and political power, could very well be watching someone who looks like you getting abused on camera. when you defend your p0rn, you defend all p0rn. and you defend everyone that watches it, too.

This one is SO much worse than the fried pork belly and cabbage 😭

Ok this is legit the grossest cooking vid I’ve ever seen. Most of the bad ones are clearly fake, but this dude lives like this. You can see the disgusting “cooking surface” on the mattress. The whole room could not have been that fucked up just to make this video. This… I don’t believe this could be staged. This room already existed, and even if he doesn’t really live there, he still did all that. And boiling water in the meat tray made me wanna gag. E. Coli juice. This guy is either gonna start a fire, or die of food poisoning. I’m terrified.

I urge everyone who has not seen the full video to watch this masterpiece. Literally the funniest video on the internet.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ub0GzU56YMA

Reblogging for the original which I’m just seeing for the first time now. 💀

American Horror Story: Polycule

Cobra starship was a better and more culturally significant band than the beatles

porn obsessed grown adult men are harassing billie eilish for criticizing the porn industry and for talking about how young she was exposed to it and the effects it had on her body image and perception of sex. when she was first in the spotlight, porn obsessed men made deepfakes of her and oversexualized her as a minor, and now theyre harassing her for speaking out against it but this time theyre calling themselves "pro-sex work feminists"

I do want all sex buyers to d13 tho ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

This definitely reads as a TIM pretending to be a "reformed" radfem to me. Your "comparisons" and "points" are intentionally damaging misinformation and fearmongering and you know exactly what you're doing by making them.

I'll admit that this one was more convincing than the 'ex-radfem' account I scrolled earlier, but there's still one core, important thing missing here: they state that they used to be a 'terf', then say that the reason we're 'terfs' is because we're afraid, and it's scary to "admit" that men can actually be women. this person still didn't define 'woman'. this person still didn't write this in a way that radfems would cohesively understand, using terms we would get, and it didn't address that being male is not something you can be if you're a woman, they're incompatible. while it isn't the core of radical feminism, the very first genuine question we ask tras to answer in any debate is 'define what it is to be a woman', and we do this because we know believing in gender ideology will make them answer with circular logic, or with sexist stereotypes. there's no way not to, without contradicting themselves. for this to have been convincing, and to have any chance of changing any minds, that would have been necessary to address. what convinced them that males can be women? what convinced them to change their mind, and, most importantly, now that they've changed their mind, what's their new definition of 'woman'?

Exactly! And they also didn't mention sex-based oppression, which is the core of radical feminism. You can't spend time on radical feminist social media without seeing these points brought up, leaving them out is either a deliberate choice to misrepresent our arguments, or ignorance because they haven't spent time on Ovarit at all.

Calling us "the girls on Ovarit" is also suspicious. Not saying radfems never call women girls, but there's at least some effort not to in this sort of context. It definitely reads more like a man trying to infantalize us.

“You only see the worst examples of the trans community!” okay cool but even if 100% of trans women were amazing people who wouldn’t hurt a fly, I still know they aren’t female, can’t become female, nor do I believe they belong in female spaces. So what now?

There are sure are a fuck of a lot of “worst examples” for such a small population.

And “it starts with jokes about the Y chromosome”. No. It starts with the cotton ceiling, or policing our language, or protecting predators, etc.. The jokes come later.

I’ve never even been on Ovarit, and I’ve seen tons of horrific examples of trans behavior. So the fact that the “worst” are all collected there means that it’s much worse than I even thought, because most of the shit I see is in mainstream media, or non-feminist social media. This isn’t a tiny fringe group issue. This is a >50% of the population issue, and we don’t have to see a collection of the worst to see that there’s more than a plethora of examples of trans women being sexual predators. This is so fake and stupid. I don’t believe anyone, who understands what radical feminism is, would fall for this. They’re just trying to convince their TRA friends that they can “turn” radfems into TRAs. That it’s easy to get us to change our mind, because apparently this “former TERF” did. But we know that this is a show. The only people falling for it are TRAs who still think there’s hope at convincing radfem women that trans women are women. It’s never gonna happen.

Please, please someone help me. I see you liking and reblogging things. Please help me, I can’t use this website correctly anymore. I can’t interact with anyone. Can someone please help me understand what is happening? I keep asking and nothing is working. Please.

@thelastoneunjust Hey I can’t reply to your comment, so I have to reblog in order to communicate. I can’t see my own stuff in any notes, but people have still been reblogging/liking my stuff. Is that possible with a shadowban? I thought that you end up like completely censored. And I can’t like my own post. 😓

https://that-damn-girl.tumblr.com/post/657063708366929920/all-about-shadowban

here’s a post about it, tho i know your posts would still appear on the dash for those that follow you.

completely censored wouldn’t be very good, the point is just to hide you. idk tho never been shadowbanned

Thank you! I had a feeling that’s what it was, but I wasn’t sure because some people can still like/reblog from me. I’ll email staff. Thank you so much because I felt like I was going crazy.

Please, please someone help me. I see you liking and reblogging things. Please help me, I can’t use this website correctly anymore. I can’t interact with anyone. Can someone please help me understand what is happening? I keep asking and nothing is working. Please.

@thelastoneunjust Hey I can’t reply to your comment, so I have to reblog in order to communicate. I can’t see my own stuff in any notes, but people have still been reblogging/liking my stuff. Is that possible with a shadowban? I thought that you end up like completely censored. And I can’t like my own post. 😓